Wednesday, June 30, 2004

一年前的作品

以下是我一年前的作品。當我第一眼看到的時候﹐我告訴自己﹕這不是我的作品。因為那些文字﹐真的稚嫩的很。

現在的我﹐再不可能寫出這樣的作品。我感覺的﹐是我的文筆有了些許的進步。你們同意嗎﹖

甜蜜的感覺

甚麼是甜蜜﹖您知道嗎﹖它是甜的﹐但它的甜是不膩的。
它是一種您不用嘗但也可以感覺得到的東西。
它會令您有百嘗不厭的感覺。
它不是用錢可以買得到的。
是須要用您的心去知道的。

您說我說得對嗎?

To Understand What I Should Understand

Today during a chatting with friend, I come up a statement "to understand what I should understand".

Lately there are a lot of questions raised by my staff to ask WHY. Actually most of our questions are not able to have an answer. Although you may have an answer now but how long this answer can stay valid. We tend to create a lot of questions by myself. To think it in a deeper sense, do we need to know that much?

Maybe we can know the knowledge of the whole world but what's the benefit that we can get. It is really an issue that we need to think of it.

So next time, when you try to understand the whole situation, you may ask yourself "what should I understand?". To save our time to enjoy our lives, better to understand what we should understand.

Monday, June 28, 2004

To Share With the One that Have Such Need

In the past, I would post a good article in office department notice board. I want to share what I see good to others. I not did that for a long time.

Reason is that as if a person wants to find something good to read, he/she may search in book shop or in net. It is really no need to wait for others to let them know what's good to read. As if a person doesn't have such need, no matter what I am trying to share, they won't take a look.

I want to share but I find another way to do so. Share what I think is good in my blog.

Dialogue

I like the meaning of dialogue very much.

"Dialogue means trying to understand the other with an open mind. Dialogue is taking each other's hand, moving together towards the truth, helping each other to find the way. It is togetherness, it is a cooperation, it is a harmonious effort to find the truth."

Have you ever experienced the beauty of dialogue? I did.

Just Click It

Don't think it is always the same for each click. Try this! You will know what I am talking about.

True Love

How do you define true love? If you don't know or are not sure, please read this and see whether you agree with the writer or not.

Our Beautiful Life

"Anger is beautiful; sex is beautiful. But beautiful things can go ugly. That depends on you. If you condemn them, they become ugly; if you transform them, they become divine."

Do you know how to turn those ugly into beautiful? I sure you won't like an ugly life. Am I right?

If you have interest, please go through the whole passage here.

Sunday, June 27, 2004

Aloneness

A sharing for those who feel loneliness.

生活中的世界

“在佛陀時代,不需要動態性的靜心。因為人們比較簡單、樸實,他們的生活比較真實。而現在,人們活得很壓抑,很不真實;不想笑的時候笑,覺得憤怒時卻表現出慈悲。人們是如此地虛偽,所有的生活模式都是假的。人們只是在演戲,不是在生活。在頭腦裡不斷收集和累積許多片段不完整的經驗。”

以上的是從奧修網站裡節錄下來的。

我們真的活在虛偽當中嗎﹖我們生活中的世界﹐是假的嗎﹖太多太多的問題﹐我們真的要問嗎﹖

相類似的﹐總在一起

在“窮人的幸福”一書裡﹐作者提到奧修。原來奧修是一位出名的靈性大師﹐在印度很有名的。

不知什麼原因﹐相類似的總走在一起。在總多的書裡﹐這本我不選﹐那本我不選﹐偏偏的就選了我正在看的“窮人的幸福”。物以類聚﹐這講法真的有它的玄機。

太陽伯伯

不知是人們比較注重紫外線的影響﹐還是真的陽光過於猛烈﹐連上了年紀的男人走在太陽底下也舉起傘來。

至於氣溫方面﹐真的較去年高了很多。只是六月天﹐我也天天開起空調來。明知對身體不太好﹐但是悶熱的天氣﹐真的令人難受。

The Best Choice

Do you believe there is a best choice in this world? Maybe a best choice is existed in this world but seems we never know it is the best or not.

As if you really got the best in this world, would you continue to seek for the best of the best? I prefer to believe there is never ending things in this world. As if we all know what is the best, then no fun will exist anymore.

Saturday, June 26, 2004

一本心靈書

這本書叫“窮人的幸福”。它不是談論什麼的方法來讓你的心靈有所寄託﹐而是作者的印度旅行的記錄。這個作者是一個韓國人。我也是第一次看韓國人寫的書﹐當然我看的是一本翻譯書。

這本書的簡介﹐第一句是這樣寫的“這是一本隨時隨地讓您平靜下來的書。”真的有這麼神奇的魔力嗎﹖抱著懷疑的態度﹐打開這本書看起來。

只是看完五個故事﹐我可以肯定的推介﹐你也看看這本書。除了領會到一些人生哲學﹐也對印度這國家﹐有多一些的了解﹐也對這國家的智慧有著渴望接觸的衝動。怪不得我的公司的高層﹐也有很多的印度人。

原來我認為知道世界的知識﹐真的少得很﹐而且帶有很多的偏見。

Mistakes > Angry > Improvement

After you have made a mistake, how is your feeling about it? Someone may say anyone should make a mistake, no surprise. Others may feel it is due to I lack of the knowledge to do so. The person who asks me to do this should tell me about how to do. Some may feel angry about themselves.

No matter how you feel, the important is that we must learn in our own mistakes. I feel sorry about you as if you only have your emotion about your mistakes but not doing anything to avoid them in the future.

Everyone will make mistakes, so we must feel happy that we can learn from them. It is a golden chance for us to make an improvement.

Thursday, June 24, 2004

要贏

我是一個比較好強的人﹐我要自己做的﹐儘量的比別人的好。如果我的能力不夠﹐那作別論。

在“博弈游戲”一書裡﹐看到一句話﹐忍不住立即把它畫上記號﹐這句話是這樣講的“你不必每次都贏”。它的解釋是“要求自己比對方做得好不是一個很好的標準﹐除非你的目的是消滅對方”。

你們能理解嗎﹖

Wednesday, June 23, 2004

Gmail

It is funny that people make the gmail account to be sold in eBay.

I still have 4 invitations, therefore if you want one, please let me know and I can send the invitation to you for FREE.

Lazy Susan

Do you know what is lazy Susan? From the words themselves, I never can know what it is.

From dictionary, it says "a circular piece of wood or plastic which is put on a table and can be turned around so that everyone can reach the food that is on it".

It is real fun to surf in online dictionary.

Kowtow

This word should like taxi, the pronunciation of english and chinese are more or less the same.

From dictionary, kowtow means "to show too much respect to someone in authority, always obeying them and changing what you do in order to please them".

Motive to Learn

Lately I have an idea to learn French. It is not because I have such need or I like French. Reason for the motive to learn is due to my friend only.

He told me that he would pay effort to learn the phonetic of mandarin as it is one of my strengths. He is now learning French, therefore I want to learn faster than him.

Do you think I am so unwise to make such decision? Anyway, most likely I may spend my time in studying something that is worth to me.

是一本真的書嗎﹖

我正在看一本叫“博弈游戲”的書﹐是由哈爾濱出版社出版的。我打算把這本書介紹給我的朋友﹐希望電郵一些資料給他﹐所以我到書中提到的網站去搜尋。出乎意料﹐我找不到。

我嘗試用書名、作者的名稱和ISBN號碼﹐統統也找不到。真的不知什麼原因。期盼我看的﹐不是一本假的書。我已經把我的疑問問了出版社﹐希望他們會給我一個回覆。

Tuesday, June 22, 2004

認識了一個新朋友

原來在這個世界上﹐真的有很多人喜愛學語文。我就在一個學中文的網站裡﹐認識了一個新朋友。我不知道﹐在一次網上談話後﹐會不會再次聯絡﹐但是我卻感到一份情誼。可能是他/她對我的作品﹐給了我一些意見。

原來文字真的有它的溝通能力﹐不是直接的﹐但是卻令人覺得它的生命力的存在。如果不是的話﹐為何一段數天前寫的文章﹐也能作為溝通的橋樑呢﹖

為什麼

你喜歡問“為什麼”嗎﹖我們都喜愛去想為什麼你要這樣做﹐為什麼你不這樣做。可是﹐我們是比較少的去問我們為什麼不這樣做﹐為什麼這樣做。

我們很相信的是﹐我做的與我不做的﹐都有充份的理由。你不做的與你做的﹐我們總是不明白。

你們認真地去想一想﹐你真的明白自己的所謂理由嗎﹖可能只是一種自我的假設。

為什麼我要去想這些呢﹖我也不知為什麼。

心靈的培訓

正在看“叔本華人生哲學”﹐這是一本由中國翻譯的書。原著應該是叔本華本人﹐這個我不清楚﹐因為我還沒有真正的看過這位哲學家的書。

才看過二十多頁﹐便被這本書深深的吸引著。它的每一句話﹐每一個字﹐都能讓你去思考。在這本書的介紹裡說“這是一次走進大師的心靈之旅﹐或許會改變你的一生。”我相信這句話。

可能是我的相信﹐我愛上這本書。我相信的﹐可能是我認為我可以擁有更好的心靈。那麼﹐擁有更好的心靈的用意何在呢﹖這個﹐我要一點時間去思考一下。

Monday, June 21, 2004

書到用時方恨少

開始用英文寫作﹐也開始多加留意用詞和每個字的真正含義。才發覺﹐有很多誤解的地方﹐也有很多錯用詞語的時候。真的體會到書到用時方恨少的意境。

寫的越多﹐也發覺越有表達的困難。好像那一篇關於哲學的﹐真的不知看的人﹐能否理解我要表達的東西。

真的要用心的去改進我的語言技巧。我知道﹐我是少了點耐力﹐也不太認真。但願知錯能改﹗

A Philosophy Book

This is the second philosophy book that I have. The writer is Schopenhauer. The one I am reading is a chinese translated version.

I am not sure how good the translation is but I am surprised by the idea that was come from more than 100 years ago. Although the idea is a history but it can apply to our present lives.

In these 100 years, there were a lot of invention in technology. However it seems that our thinking or our vision didn't changed. Or a cycle is completed, therefore we go back and start over.

Only read a few pages of the book and I have a lot of questions. Sure I will ask more during my reading. Is it the meaning of philosophy?

Sunday, June 20, 2004

關懷

我們總是忙忙碌碌的﹐關懷別人的時間真的越來越少。我自己也犯了這個毛病。

我不是很忙﹐但是我卻埋首于看書和寫作﹐對其他的事情好像沒有了任何的興趣﹐連我曾經說一定要每年去一次旅遊的心情也沒有了。我不是沒有去旅遊的動力﹐而是沒有一個稱心的同行者。

在電視裡﹐看到一個浪漫之旅﹐很希望可以擁有這個旅程。

A Good Book

Very agree with the statement to define a good book.

My good book may not be your good book. But it is very good to share my good books to all of you. Sure I am waiting for your sharing as well.

一則笑話

這笑話是抄錄自“墨菲法則”。

“說有一個吝嗇鬼在街上買饅頭吃﹐吃到第七個的 時候他感覺到飽了﹐於是他感慨地說﹕早知道這個饅頭能吃飽﹐前面的就不用買了。“

看完後﹐你有什麼感覺﹖會不會說那個人很傻﹖在你說他傻的時候﹐你們有沒有想過﹐我們也可能會說過類似的話。很多的時候﹐我們都會說”早知道這﹐早知道那﹐我們便不會做這做那。

真的有“早知道”嗎﹖相信是沒有的。

Flirt

Today I buy a book that is about flirt. It is a chinese translated version. The original book is written by a German.

To flirt and to be flirted, the most important is to show off. The purpose is to get attention of others. In return, the person that is showing off feels a sense of self-satisfied.

A simply conversation can be a form of flirt. Like what I am writing now, is a way to get your attention as well. As if you find me as admiring, then we may start a conversation. As if both feel good about the conversation, then a chemical reaction may be created.

Simple as a person

To a situation, simple is the best. However when we use simple to describe a person, it seems not a good adjective.

Simple-minded in dictionary is "describes a person who lacks the ability to reason and understand."

As if our world were full of simple things, then does it meant that a simple-minded can do? Not sure is our mind to sharp our world or our world to shape our mind.

There are a lot of things that I want to have an answer. However does the answer brings any real meaning to me? Actually I don't need an answer but I just like to create a question.

Simple is the Best

Do you believe that simple is the best? I trust its effectiveness.

However, people tend to have complicated handling. Lately I joined a meeting to discuss how to handle a dry ice shipment with diagnostic specimen. During the meeting, I understood the whole shipment process. On the other hand, I was surprised by the so many exception that are involved in the process. As if the shipment is handled carelessly, then the examination result from the laboratory may not be believable.

I don't know how many tests will be taken for one suspicious illness. Next time if you get a bad news, stay calm and wait for another test result. Sometimes it is our worries to make a thing to be worst.

你我的圍牆

看完了“傻瓜的圍牆”。我對這本書的評價是﹕你一定要看這本書。

這本書的內容﹐你可能會說﹕太雜亂了。它所談論的範圍﹐真的是多了點﹐它談到經濟、老師的責任、學生的學習態度、人的個性、等等。我沒有資格和能力去說這是好還是不好﹐但是我可以肯定的說﹕這是一本令我們思想的書。每一個章節﹐都是思考的引發。

我最喜歡的是書的結尾﹐我把它節錄下來﹐讓大家來感受它的意義。“那些一味相信”說一說就能明白“、”這個世界上存在絕對的事實“的人很容易就會落入一元論﹐並最終被禁錮在強硬的傻瓜的圍牆裡面。一眼看上去﹐這種人似乎非常輕鬆快樂。但事實上﹐他們根本沒有看到外面那些和自己立場不同的事情﹐當然也就無法進行溝通了。”

每個人都有他自己選擇的權力﹐要不要把我們的圍牆卸下﹐就看你自己了。

Saturday, June 19, 2004

信念

”所謂信就是人言﹐人說的話﹔所謂念就是今天的心。兩個字合起來就是今天我在心裡對自己說的話。“很有意思的話﹐我是從”墨菲法則“裡抄錄下來的。

很多的時候﹐我們都以為我們相信了他人﹐原來我們相信的﹐是我們自己。你可能會說﹐這不是我的話﹐是某某告訴我的。這便是我們把別人的話﹐放進了我們的心裡。

誤信他人﹐便不可以成立了。從今天開始﹐好好的為自己建立一套自己的信念吧﹗

History of Google

Find an article about Google. If you have interest, please feel free to browse it.

尋尋覓覓

我們的一生﹐都在尋覓我們心中的最愛。在最近一次和朋友的聚會中﹐她們分享了她們的故事。

女孩子要的﹐總是感覺。沒有感覺的愛情﹐是愛情嗎﹖我也認為感覺是最重要的。肯定也是女孩子需要的。問題是﹐女孩子可以感受到感覺﹐但是肯定呢﹖這是需要男孩子給我們的。

可是男孩子總是吝嗇于付出女孩子所需的肯定。男孩子們﹐請快快行動吧﹗

Problem Solved

The IE problem is caused by too much history kept in ICQ. I have deleted all history and now I can surf in the net again.

Actually it is easy to solve the issue but the problem had last for one week or more. From this incident, I notice that we always look at the wrong way to solve an issue. I always think is the IE issue but in turn the real issue is only housekeeping.

I sure this can apply to all the problems that we face in our lives. From this minute onwards, I would never say "I don't know how to solve a problem". I will look at the real problem first.

電腦的世界

我相信﹐我們的生活真的很依賴電腦。可能有些人還是不需要電腦的﹐但是我的生活﹐卻和電腦有著密切的關係。

如果沒有電腦的話﹐我會懶得寫作。沒有了寫作﹐我的生活會否一樣呢﹖沒有了寫作﹐我會對書本的喜愛減少嗎﹖

我最近面對的是我的電腦的問題。不知什麼原因﹐我不可以使用上網用的軟件。可是我卻懶得去弄一個寬頻的帳戶﹐來使用我弟弟給我的電腦。

看來奇怪的是我。我真的要儘快的行動﹐把我要做的事情弄好。

Friday, June 18, 2004

QBQ

Do you know what is QBQ? It stands for the question behind the question. I find this from this book.

It seems that people are not concern the real problem anymore. Therefore they tend not to think of a real question. They like to ask but they don't want to bear any responsibilities.

There is another funny atmosphere in my workplace as well. Who asks the question, then it is he/she to coordinate to find out a solution. So-called clever people may stop to ask question or they just pretend to ask something which is meaningless. As a practice and form a habit, they have lost the ability to ask the real question.

Therefore as if you are a proactive person that want to solve a problem, you may need to pay attention to the question behind the question.

Critical Time, Critical Thinking

Today I discuss this with my friend. I say that it is critical time for us to make critical thinking. I am not sure whether my saying is correct or not.

My rationale is that, when we are feeling safe in a situation, we won't think of a change. It is normal human behavior. As in a turbulent time, we will think more. For those chance seekers, they may grasp the opportunity to do "big" thing. For those peace seekers, they may think how to keep the peace life as well. All are working together to get a better life. Sure there are people won't do anything at this moment and they are just follow how the others and situation change.

Therefore CHANGE is normal in a critical time. And change needs to have critical thinking to support the action.

Thursday, June 17, 2004

Role Profile

In a work place, every position should have a role profile. The purpose is to define the scope of work that a person is needed to carry. However I encountered a situation lately which I felt it is funny.

It is a post which is classified as back end position. However the
person who holds this position needs to deal with customers as well as vendor. Lately the boss asked the job incumbent to handle a price negotiation job as well. How can a person can have so much skills to deal with such a wide variety of jobs?

As a staff, we can't say NO to an assignment but we do have our right to voice out that we don't have that knowledge and skills to handle a task. As if the boss insisted that this person is needed to take up the job, we have no choice but to try our best.

It is not pessimistic but to follow the game of rule.

A Cup of Coffee

These two days, I tried not to drink coffee during breakfast. Why did I do so? Reason is simple that I want to have a healthy meal.

Heard of some news about the bad effect of drinking coffee. One of them is that coffee may hurt our bones. Not sure this saying is right or wrong. However I sure know to drink yogurt is good to me.

From the eating habit, I find that I am a person that will stick to something for a period of time. On the other hand, I am a person that needs to be changed as well.

Seem contradict but I sure this is good to me as I don't take the habit as habit forever. A good habit may become a bad habit as if we just take it as a habit and not to think whether it is still a good one or not.

Intelligent Talk

In dictionary, intelligence means "the ability to learn, understand and make judgments or have opinions that are based on reason".

I like to have friends that are able to have such talk with me. I am not that clever but I want that I can learn during the conversation. As I know I am a process oriented person, therefore I won't allow myself to waste time in talking with nothing.

Due to the above, I may not have many friends. Most people would like to spend time in chit chat rather a serious talk.

Fight for Something

In dictionary, I find one of the definitions of "fight". It stated as "to use a lot of effort to defeat or achieve something, or to stop something happening".

Lately my colleague shared a case with me. I found out that sometimes we are fighting for the sake of fighting only. Apparently, we use others' benefits to fight for something. However end up the users may say "I don't have such need". It is so common in our working place.

Next time, when I try to fight for something for the others. I may ask myself what is the actual reason that I need to have such fight, for others or for myself.

Can Be Calm

Tonight my boss phoned me to ask me to do something for her. She was very nervous in the phone call. I am not going to tell the details of the call here but what I want to share is that I found myself was feeling calm at that moment.

I believe that it is due to my recent training provided to myself. I want to have a clear mind always. Hence I may feel calm and then leading me to a peace world.

Reading from newspaper, there mentioned that a guy compared the happiness gained from a peace mind with the joy from sex. He prefers the former.

Upon reading, I would like to experience the happiness that he has gained. Seems very attractive

Sunday, June 13, 2004

Learn from a CEO

Tonight there is a tv program that is talking about a CEO from a canned soup company. From there, I learn the importance of making a decision.

I discover that people tend not to make a decision. I don't really know the reason but I guess they don't want to bear the consequence of making a wrong decision. To me, to make a decision is not that difficult. For that moment, we always make a good decision. The result cannot be guaranteed as we are not able to control the situation.

As a responsible decision making, we always pay attention to the environment. We notice the changes in the situation. As if there is a need to make a change again, we can do it accordingly. Admit the decision that we made in the past is needed to have a change.

Creation, Reaction

Find a passage in net. It is very interesting. Same english character but different meaning. Never think that language is so funny.

Actually when we try to look into one thing in details, we sure can find more in that thing that we see it everyday. Nothing special is meant there is something special. It all depends on how much time we spend in discovering. Everywhere shows new thing to us. Take your time and take your senses to feel it.

留心

今晚在一個青年人到少林寺習武的電視節目裡﹐聽到這樣的話﹕你要懂得問問題。

我也曾經寫過關於問問題的文章。懂得問正確的問題﹐看似很簡單﹐但是我們稍不留神﹐我們便容易脫離我們應該身處的地方。可能這是我們的關係﹐也可能是別人製造的結果。

留心﹐是我們需要訓練自己的地方。我們身邊的人﹐總是希望我們可以走向他們應為我們要到的地方去。他們可能會對你說﹐這是為你好的。我不排除他們的好意﹐但是真正知道我要去哪裡的﹐卻是我自己。

留心﹐便是時常留意自己的心﹐明白我們想要的東西。知道以後﹐便決心的去得到它。

一份特別的三明治

在這世界上﹐有沒有一份由一片麵包﹐兩片肉組成的三明治呢﹖當然你可以要求一份﹐我說的是由店子自然提供的那一種。

過多的豐富晚餐﹐是會令你吃不消的。我們寧願要一碗白粥﹐清清腸胃。

如果我們只有開心﹐我們會覺得高興嗎﹖看似從來也沒有感受過只有開心的日子﹐但是也從來沒有要求過。如果真的有這一天的來臨﹐會是怎麼樣的呢﹖

我只知道﹐如果真的有那一天﹐我會沒有靈感去寫作了。

昨天﹐今天﹐明天

在“墨菲法則”一書裡﹐有這樣有趣的比喻“而當你看陰暗的方面時﹐當然總是有兩個晚上而僅僅有一個小的白天夾在兩個晚上之間﹐像三明治一樣。”

這個比喻﹐我們可以把晚上和白天互相調換﹐看看你是喜歡晚上或是白天。或者我們可以想像一個巨無霸﹐可以有三個晚上﹐兩個白天﹐或是三個白天﹐兩個晚上。

如果晚上是代表了負面﹐而白天是正面的話﹐怎樣的安排﹐全是你的決定。你更可以做一份熱狗﹐輕輕的把熱狗麵包剖開﹐放進你心愛的香腸。

綠茶

以前我們要喝台灣綠茶﹐便要到那些售賣台灣珍珠奶茶的店子。生意人看到市場上有這個需求﹐於是他們便生產了瓶子綠茶。在市場上﹐很受女孩子的歡迎。

瓶子綠茶的售價﹐真的不平宜﹐要八塊一瓶。它受歡迎的原因﹐是它不是汽水﹐所以它不會令女孩子變肥胖。也因為它不是汽水﹐所以較為健康。慢慢的﹐連男孩子也喜歡起綠茶。今天我留意到﹐連上了年紀的人也喝綠茶。

綠茶是健康的﹐但是這些瓶子綠茶是否健康﹐我不知道。它的淡淡的味道﹐令人覺得它是健康的。這些便是市場策略的成功﹐它因應了市場的需要。

Saturday, June 12, 2004

失敗的分類

很喜歡北力編著的墨菲法則中將失敗的分類。書中是這樣說的”依據墨菲法則﹐對失敗的類型﹐從本質上劃分﹐可以有以下五類﹕
1 - 必然性失敗與偶然性失敗
2 - 嚴重性失敗與輕微性失敗
3 - 合理性失敗與不合理性失敗
4 - 局部失敗與全局失敗
5 - 決策失敗與實施失敗“

以上的﹐對我來說﹐是一個很好的啟示。很多的時候﹐我能夠明白當中的道理﹐但是我卻對面一個難題﹐就是怎樣去令別人也明白呢﹖別人不明白也不打緊﹐我最怕面對的﹐是他們的不願意去共同合作﹐把事情弄好。

有些時候﹐事情是辦好了﹐但是卻未能把人與人之間的關係弄好。這並不是我所想的。兩全其美當然是最好的﹐可能我要做的﹐是做到平衡﹐是我內心的平衡。

Being Connected

We all need to connect with this world. No one can live in this world by their own only.

Yesterday night I attended a BBQ gathering. There were over 30 persons to join this gathering. It was a company gathering, however it ended up as a personal function.

People grouped themselves together without effort. Some people may run from this group to another group. However there was people showing hesitation when they tried to go to another group.

To me, I felt I was not belonged to a particular group. I was there but I was not in there. I felt a bit lost.

There was a question in my mind last night. What do I want, a peace mind or a connected life? I don't know why I will connect these two things together, it seems they are not interrelated. However I did had such thinking.

Maybe, same with my friend, I am being affected by a past experience happened in a particular period. If yes, then it seems that my friend and I are being connected.

Positive Failure

Do you ever think that a failure can be turned into a positive thing? I know I am a person that like to investigate the root cause of a problem. I always say, we are allowed to do wrong thing. But we can only do it wrong for the maximum for 3 times and it is only applies to small error.

Lately I read a book that is talking about Murphy's Law. From net, I found the meaning of this law.

What the feeling after you read the definition of the Law? I don't know about yourselves but I know I can see the positive side of this law and I believe I apply it in the past, present and in the future.

Friday, June 11, 2004

日月星辰

你們相信宇宙嗎﹖太陽、月亮真的對我們有影響嗎﹖為什麼每年的十二月二十一或二十二日便是冬至﹖這不是中國的節令嗎﹖為何是跟隨陽曆﹐而不是陰曆﹖

一些你的過去﹐會一直的影響你嗎﹖我們的情緒的高低﹐是受著潮漲潮落的影響嗎﹖

真的不知道﹐也不打算去探究。以上的﹐只是我的隨想罷了。

Thursday, June 10, 2004

不知道

從來也沒有想過不知道是正面的。在“傻瓜的圍牆”一書裡﹐是這樣說的“本來什麼也不知道﹐卻認為自己已經知道了﹐這是很可怕的。”

我能夠維持對事物的好奇。在還沒有看這本書之前﹐我所持的態度是我要時常溫故知新。看過這本書後﹐我會堅持我現在所做的﹐因為我不想我的傻瓜的圍牆向上發展。

Do you think concentration is important?

If your answer is yes, then you may have interest in this book.

I find myself is weak in concentration. Therefore I train myself to love tennis in order to have some improvement in this area. Reading is kind of training too.

On the other hand, I will ask myself to stop to do a thing when I sense my concentration level is decreasing. I prefer to take a rest or chit chat with someone. When I go back to my work, my concentration may go back. If same situation is prevailed, then I will totally stop the work and do another thing.

Pushing isn't work. Don't push others as well as yourself.

Wednesday, June 9, 2004

傻瓜的圍牆

你們知道什麼是傻瓜的圍牆嗎﹖可能你有你的想法﹐在這裡﹐我想和大家分享的是一本書﹐它的名字叫傻瓜的圍牆。作者是一個日本人﹐我看的是中國的譯本。

在書裡﹐作者說的傻瓜的圍牆是“對自己不想知道的事情﹐他們會主動的隔斷信息。在這裡存在一堵牆﹐這就是傻瓜的圍牆。”

你們覺得自己有這堵牆嗎﹖我肯定我有。在另一方面﹐我也很努力去把這堵牆的高度減低。

Tuesday, June 8, 2004

我沒有時間

以下的﹐是我在How to Live On 24 Hours A Day 裡抄錄下來的﹐很值得我們花點時間去思考它的含義。

“你只能浪費正在流逝的時間﹐但你不可能浪費明天。”“有了時間﹐一切都有可能﹔沒有時間﹐一切的可能性都是虛幻。”

如果你能明白當中的道理﹐那麼我們再不會說“我沒有時間”。什麼事情都可以完成的﹐除非我們死掉。

如果今天你感到不開心﹐由它去吧﹗如果你緊握那不開心的情緒﹐你能做的﹐便是浪費正在流逝的時間。什麼什麼﹐只可能成為我們的夢。

夢想成真﹐秘訣便是不要說“我沒有時間”。

Your Time

Today I bought 3 books, all are in simplified chinese. It is cheap, only costs HK$78.

The one I am reading now is called How to Live On 24 Hours A Day.

Have you ever thought how you use your time in a day? I bought this book as I was attracted by the book name. I will share what I read and learn in this book to all my friends.

Monday, June 7, 2004

喜悅不是歡樂

這是奧修的話。

在詞典裡﹐喜悅指愉快﹔高興。歡樂指快樂﹐多指集體的。

別人的快樂﹐你未必感染到。同樣地﹐你的愉快心情﹐也可能不讓別人感受到。我們追尋的﹐是喜悅還是歡樂﹖

歡樂的氣氛﹐有可能令你擁有喜悅的心情﹐同樣地﹐也有可能令你感到寂寞。當你感到喜悅的時候﹐那是完完全全屬於你自己的。那是一種可以令你回味的一種心情。

Patience

I just found out that it is a good way to train your patience by learning language.

We need to spend time to look at the meaning of every word, to remember how to write it and the pronunciation. Also we need to have revision from time to time, no matter it is a difficult word or a simple one.

Most often, we may be surprised that we don't exactly know the simplest words too.

活在當下

近來﹐很多的時候﹐我們都可以聽到“活在當下”這樣的說法。我不太肯定﹐活在當下是否佛教的說法。

我對活在當下的解釋是﹐認認真真的去感受這一刻的感覺。我可以和大家說﹐當下的感覺是最好的感覺﹐因為我們沒有了煩惱。我們不再害怕將來﹐也不需對過往的事情而苦惱或後悔。

但是只顧當下﹐不理會將來和過去﹐真的是對的嗎﹖長時間這樣做的話﹐我相信是有負面的影響的。

看我的妹妹﹐我第一次再遇上她的時候﹐我覺得她是幸福的。可是那些只是一個假象。那幸福的畫面﹐我再也看不見。可能我們是不可以感受別人的幸福與否的﹐只有當事人才可以感受得到。

到此﹐我領略到﹐不要羨慕別人的幸福。只有是屬於自己的﹐才是真的幸福。

Real Character

"The measure of a man's real character is what he would do if he knew he never would be found out." by Thomas B. Macaulay.

Do you know your real character? I think all of us can't answer this question. It is the reason why we are still finding "who am I?".

There is another saying: "We all do our best when others are watching. But what about when no one is looking? That's where character comes in." by Bill Hybels.

Do you feel uneasy when your real character is revealed to others? I think most of us may not like to have such feeling. Therefore we are all playing the hide-and-seek game always.

Sunday, June 6, 2004

突破

要尋找突破﹐我相信我們首要的是勇氣。另外﹐我們要的是承擔能力。成功與失敗﹐都是未知之數﹐我們絕不可以把這個責任推在別人的身上。我們要的﹐是對自己有絕對的信心。

如果真的事情不如我們所想的﹐我們要做的是去尋找解決的方法﹐而不是找人去背黑鍋。

那些沒有這樣思想的人﹐絕對不是我可以學習的對象。

小學生

我們的童年﹐父母們是不需要花太多的時間與精力﹐去為我們入讀哪一間小學而懮心的。可是現在的環境已大大的不同﹐父母們會為了一間名牌小學﹐毅然的賣掉房子﹐轉換居住地方。

入讀名牌小學﹐是為了父母們的虛榮心還是真的為了子女們﹖我真的有所懷疑。

報紙上是這樣寫的﹕有些父母﹐花了大約八千元﹐讓子女們上幼稚園﹐學溜冰、非洲鼓、繪畫、音樂、數學、英文、等等。小孩子們﹐真的有這麼多的耐心去學這麼多的東西嗎﹖最重要的﹐真的有這個需要嗎﹖

我不知道﹐真的不知道﹐可能當我是一個母親的時候﹐我也會這樣做。

To Learn Chinese in China

Yesterday, I chatted with a net friend who lives in Canada. He is a young boy and is still in schooling. He is surprised that I spend time and money on learning languages.

Recently, I have interest to know more about the Chinese language. Even I want to live in China to gain more in-depth of the culture. I find an attractive course that offers by Beijing University. It costs only HK$3,880 for a 52-days course, including traveling to few cities in China.

I really want to go for it but now is not a good timing. Therefore I write it down here and let's stands as a reminder to me.

Saturday, June 5, 2004

To Learn Chinese on Web

Try this. Very good one.

Calm Place

"Often, the only calm place in a queue is at the front." by Paul Wilson.

I now know the reason why I want to go ahead of others. I not aim to be better than others but only that I want to be calm.

However I sure know that other people may not able to understand. They may think I am a street fighter, always want to be the best one in a group. Anyway let it be! It is meaningless to get someone, whom is not thinking the same as me, to understand me.

Calm feeling is belonged to me and it can't be shared with anyone. My friend, if you want to be calm, find a place that suits you.

Friday, June 4, 2004

Keep Learning

Worth to read.

I never stop myself in finding ways to learn in my workplace. Sometimes I may find myself is tired about it. I ask myself whether I need to have a stop. Oftenly I will keep on. I love the learning process as it gives me new energy in my life.

How's about you, my friends?

Spiritual Writing

Since I got my friend's advise on my english writing, I pay more attention on how to write better. I not want to waste his effort in telling me where I should improve upon. It works as I take my friend's advise so seriously.

Surprisingly I found a course that teaches about spiritual writing. It aims to help us to release our stress and unpleasant feeling.

I don't know about the course but I strongly believe that it is workable. To me, I can't stop writing for even one day. I am totally enjoy the process as it brings me calm feeling.

No Response

Lately I encountered an issue that is not acceptable to me.

When I asked my working partner whether a meeting was needed, they told me yes. They chose a date for the meeting and asked whether I was okay or not. After I checked that there was no conference room available, I proposed another meeting day.

I was waiting for a reply but there had yet one. Therefore I talked to her manager. What I got was an answer "To wait for their reply." Then I asked what could I do as if there was still no reply. Same answer was provided to me.

I am not good at people handling. In this case, I really confused. How come a manager can allow his subordinates to act liked this? I accept that it is your choice to give response to others. However as long as you have said that there is a need, how come you can just ignore all the following communication?

I was not happy after talking to the manager. I am not sure this unhappiness is that I not like the manager or myself.
I find a very good website to learn chinese. Try this!

Chinese Poem in English

It is interesting to know the english translation of Chinese poem.

Thursday, June 3, 2004

馬上﹐立刻

今天朋友又給了我兩個詞語。直覺上﹐立刻是馬上行動﹐而馬上是可以稍微延遲行動的。

讓我們看看詞典的解釋﹕
馬上 - 立刻﹕快進去吧﹐電影馬上就要開演了。
立刻 - 副詞﹐表示緊接著某個時候﹔馬上﹕請大家立刻到會議室去。同學們聽到這句話﹐立刻鼓起掌來。

看來我的解釋也挺貼切。

You Want/Need an Improvement?

"Be forthright about your own weakness, and then assertively ask the interviewer to describe the greatest weaknesses of the people you would be working with. If the person doesn't know or won't say, maybe you really don't want to work there."

I copied the above which is written by Anne Fisher. The topic is "What's Your Greatest Weakness?"

From the reading, I know myself better. I now know the reason why I
don't like to work with those people whom are not willing to give comment about his/her team. If a person doesn't know his/her weaknesses, then it seems there is no chance for that person to make any improvement.

I don't know but I not like to stay with no improvement for more than 3 months. I have promised to myself, I need to be better on everyday, no matter it is a big or tiny one. It really works on me and I feel good of my little achievement on each day. It gives me sense of direction in my life.

Wednesday, June 2, 2004

練習普通話

請瀏覽這個網站﹐是一個有趣而有挑戰性的遊戲。
朋友問﹕陶醉和沉醉有何不同﹖

感覺上﹐陶醉是良性的﹔沉醉就帶點負面的意思。

讓我們看看詞典的解釋﹕
陶醉 - 很滿意的沉浸在某種境界或思想活動中。
沉醉 - 大醉﹐多用于比喻﹕沉醉在節日的歡樂裡。

可能你們會覺得我們有點無聊﹐不過我很愛這樣的談話和討論﹐因為我們的中文水平是可以由此而提高的。

Tuesday, June 1, 2004

New Insights

I told my friend that I have downloaded a document that was talking about long distance relationship. He advised not to read such things as only sad feeling would bring to me. However I told him it seemed an interesting passage as I believed that I could get some new insights from the reading.

I have yet to finish the reading. However I would like to share something here. My new insights can be applied to our relationship with anyone, including your parents, brothers, sisters and colleagues.

"We let our feelings of loneliness and insecurity come out in our belief systems, and we never knew when enough was enough in a conversation.

In retrospect, I can see how that our disagreements resulted from both of us being lonely and finding no other way to express our frustration but through self-created conflict." by Stepen Blake.

I try to apply this to my current situation in work. I may able to forgive those whom tend to argue with me always. I may try to give them warm feeling in the workplace, to let them feel the security.

Today Mood

Today my mood seems not okay. I took half day leave in the afternoon. I wanted to buy some books, therefore I went to a book shop.

I thought that I might be able to buy some simplified version chinese books. However the book shop is no longer selling such books. Then I tried to look for another types of book. Result? I didn't bought anything.

I had an empty feeling after I went out of the book shop. Although the book shop is not a big shop but it sells different kinds of book. For me, I like to wander in a large book shop. Actually I saw some books that I wanted to buy. However I found that certain books are a lot more expensive here than in Malaysia. Therefore I decided to buy more books on my next trip to Malaysia.

Or maybe my mood had been affected in today morning training. I felt I was doing something that was worthless. I was the trainer but I couldn't trigger the trainees' interest during the class.

I always say that I am a process lover. However I have missed a good chance to enjoy my half day leave today. I really need to enhance my attention to NOW.